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“Children cannot vote - vote for them” If it takes a village to raise a child, who is going to raise the village?

Canada needs a national advocacy strategy for children and youth. Families and children must become a priority. Services and treatment must be coordinated and accessible.

The United Nations convention on children’s rights needs to be disseminated and enforced.
Effective research and the sharing of knowledge are critically needed.

Existing treatment services and resources are not enough, nor are they available when they are needed.

Increased funding in these areas is urgently required so that they will be effective.


Born pressured by life to be given away
Sad, unhappy children, no laughter here
No one asks, no one cares.
How long is life anyway?
We are seen and why not heard?
Because the secrets must not be told.
Screaming, beatings, sleepless nights
Listening for those footsteps
Cringing, laying cold and still, holding your breath
Hoping he will pass this night.
Kids come and go, I must stay
Praying for things to go away
God why was I born, no one cares.
God why was I born, to be given away
To those people who didn’t care.





The hardest thing
‘bout child abuse is
If you tell
You're ostracized.
I told mother
Her eyes closed
and opened naught
for two whole years
but by then I knew
if I wanted to be heard
I talked about the weather
and nothing stuff

I lay huddled in my wood blanket
I'm cold
I'm hungry
I lay listening to the February snow storm,
listening to the wind pulling the tent
and the snow pellets driving against the canvas.
I'm so cold and hungry.
When I grow up
I'm going to feed my children
and keep them warm.


Being involved in the Survivor Monument Project has been a wonderful experience for me. Working with others of like background to erect a work of art that will be on display allows me to know that never again will child abuse be swept under the rug of secrecy. It exists! It acknowledges that and that makes it more comfortable in my mind. I hope it helps others in similar situations to find comfort that they are not alone – this project is breaking the silence.



At the top of the steps is a crowded little room
Four little girls lay silent, full of gloom.
As the car pulls into the driveway that night
They stare in the dark and stiffen with fright.

Mom went to Bingo and left them again,
To fend for themselves and deal with the pain.
The nightmare begins as the door hits the frame
And they ready themselves for Dad’s so-called game.

Dad staggers around - thinking no one will hear
So drunk he cannot sense or feel the girls fear.
At the bottom of the steps he staggers once more
His steps unsteady as they hit the floor.

The first step creaks - the girls shake and cry
The second step brings that old question “Why?”
By the third step each girl curls up tight
The fourth brings the landing and the switch for the light.

These four little girls keep quiet with hope
That he doesn’t pick them so they don’t have to cope.
They try as they might to block out the noise
Of the creaking steps he takes without poise.

Each girl is lost deep inside - the bedroom gone
Each takes a trip somewhere completely unknown,
To imagine a place that is safe and warm
Where people care and mean you no harm.

The fifth step is next, bad things enter their head
What if he fell down the steps and was dead?
That only adds to their low self-esteem
For thinking such thoughts and feeling so mean.

As Dad enters the hall grabbing hold of the wall
The knob turns - silent screams - “PLEASE LET HIM FALL!”
As it opens each little girl feigns they are asleep
With eyes shut tight they pray their soul to keep.

Dad approaches the beds and damn - HE PICKED ME!
I stiffen with fear and beg to be set free.
His grip is tight but I am no longer there
For the others are safe – that’s all I care.

As Dad exits the door of our little room
I grab at the door jam to prolong the doom.
He heads for his bedroom where he feels at ease,
I hear the clock ticking and feel my body freeze.

The clock is my key to surviving the night
As my father does what he wants in his plight.
“Only ten minutes,” he pleads in his lust
“Remember I love you!” I hear in disgust.

The time is now up but a lifetime is gone
I will soon be returned to my bed all alone;
For the three girls left are only a shell
Dad’s choice tonight has saved “them” from hell.

The four little girls know tomorrow will come
One of them will be chosen to replace their Mom.
Mom will go to Bingo and enjoy the night
While four little girls lay in bed filled with fright!





I can’t get the words
My fingers click click click
Words Words Words
I look around the room, room, room
You’re supposed to find the words, words, words
I’m too, too, too scared
Big big big trouble
Go fast fast fast
To our Rainbow way up high high high
I gots to get gone gone gone
I scareds I will dies dies dies





Discussion - The Difficulties Preventing Agencies From Responding Adequately to Abused Children

Our sociopolitical agendas do not prioritize children and families. There is a substantial lack of financial support connect to the devaluation of children. Philosophical attitudes towards children greatly affect political policies. As a result, we need to concentrate on strengths inherent in these positive attitudes to implement change. The United Nations Convention on Children’s Rights should have a significant impact on institutions and policy administrators.

Children are considered to be powerless and vulnerable, therefore they are not heard. This connects to inadequate agencies’ responses. Additionally, there is no advocacy for children’s issues.

Canada needs national advocacy for a children and youth strategy. We must link the provinces together to move our agenda forward. At this time, the provinces are not accountable. Where is the leadership on this issue? This issue must be addressed by the federal government. By setting up a forum (e.g. Federal Criminal Code) in which each province operates separately and uniquely results in an unequal allocation of funds. We must have equal allocation of funds to resources across the country.

Overall, there is a lack of adequate resources, treatment programs and secure settings. We need to have basic services, to be available in every province, at standardized levels. For example, primary prevention services such as education and support, prenatal programs, parenting programs, early intervention facilities and an abuse/neglect investigation program.

We also need national accountability: programs affecting children and youth will not be disbanded. We need a national child protection strategy and a national clearinghouse on child abuse/neglect, accessible to all provinces. In addition, all of these initiatives must be adequately coordinated.

The current general abuse/neglect programs should be expanded through more research. Currently, leading edge research is not being disseminated to existing abuse/neglect families. We need a direct connection to current, up to date research and treatments, for example, via a shared data base, or through conferences.

Current changes seem to be prompted by investigations into children’s deaths. The system cannot just be “reactive”. It needs to take a thoughtful approach. Specialists are required in areas of child protection and treatment, especially the trauma of abuse and dealing or addressing professional issues around abuse.

Currently supervisors who are involved in key decision making for children and youth issues do not receive adequate training, resulting in vicarious traumatization.

Training institutions are not correctly addressing these issues effectively. Medical persons need to be trained to identify abuse at an early stage.

There is a lack of trust in intervention agencies on the part of professionals as well as the public. The courts and police are not universally trained and the legal system is ineffective. More sensitivity and understanding on the part of the judiciary is also required.

Criminal procedures for offenders result in inadequate treatment and follow-up procedures serve to perpetuate an abusive cycle.

We need to develop ethics around authority. Different generations find it difficult to implement the power they have to orchestrate change. Workers are uncomfortable removing children. Protecting children is not their first priority, and most of the people who understood the necessity of exercising removal procedures have left.

Children in care are not being adequately dealt with in terms of their treatment needs. Resources are few and often filled, therefore children are place where there is a space, rather than in the best facility for them. It is difficult to coordinate services for abused children. There is a need to coordinate different agencies and the care they provide - “care pooling”.

Treatment methodology needs to be improved and updated (e.g. body imaging work has proven beneficial). Current trauma assessment should be expanded to all aspects of abuse. The lack of information on abuse connections to body, imagery and memories (e.g. physically focused intervention between abused children and their parents).

There is a current backlash: children lie, people are set up, professionals should not be teaching issues - where has the sense of “healthy touch” gone? Prevention has been removed from educational facilities by radical groups who are powerful.




Babington, Doug. “Sexual Outlaws and the Posses of Hearsay:… the Tide of Public Opinion Against Sexual Abuse Has Been Seriously Tainted by the Media’s Abuse of their Own Language.” Queen’s Quarterly, summer 1993, vol. 100 no. 2, p. 491-503.

Grim, Pamela. “Taking A Stand: An ER Rule of Thumb: Be Suspicious of Parents With an Injured Child Who Want to Leave Quickly (Child Neglect and Child Abuse). Discover, July 1997 vol. 18 no. 7, p. 36, 38+.

Levine, Hollie. I Am One of Them: Mothers Speak Out About Incest. Film, directed by Hollie Levine. Canada: Distributed by the National Film Board, 30 min., 1989.

Using the Empowerment of CVR
(Creative Visualization and Relaxation)
Light and Sound Technology
to help with Addictions


"Follow Site Web Ring"

End the cycle.
Give kids love!






Peace @ home.
Let's work it out.






Stop hurting children.






The hand of a child
who will not be abused.
We can have this
dream come true.






Peace @ home.
Let's work it out.












I think people
should stop fighting.











You will be protected!


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