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"Reaching Out Child Abuse Monument"
Sculptor: Michael C. Irving, Ph.D.


There's a child crying in her sleep
in the darkness she'll sit and weep
We should all look out for her
she's so frightened and unsure
If she'll reach her hand to us
and to help you know we must
For there in a corner sits a frightened child
So your voice must be gentle very mild
Take her from her hiding place
where she's sealed inside a case
Hold her close don't let her go
that she's loved let her know.
You will ask who the child may be
the child is you, the child is me.

Babette Forget-Healy
written at age 12





This Square is Dedicated
to Helen and Perry Dunlap
for Their Heroism
in Taking a Stand
to Create a Safer World
for Children.

"Stand up for wehat is right...
Even if you're standing alone."
Helen Dunlop

Stop Abuse.
Know that my
and spirit will do all
in this world to protect children.
You are loved.
Perry Dunlop



Have you even been happy?
Have you ever thought that you were important?
Have you ever had a child?
Have you ever had a child tell you that they love you?
Have you ever had someone look up to you?
Has anyone around you died and you didn’t know what to do so you just cried because you thought that was the right thing to do?
Do you know what love is?
Have you ever been in love?
Or, do you feel that love is just a word people use so they can feel like they belong?
Why I’m asking is because I don’t know myself.

S. (Age 17)










Death can be brought on by depression and/or
self-destruction, if you allow it.
I wanted to talk to get relief, Inner peace;
but I was nervous about whether or not
I would be believed.

My children mean everything to me.
My sweet, beautiful daughter - Hope, I love you.
My handsome young boys; D.J. (Derek Jr), Tanner
and last but definitely not least, Dakota, aka Dak.
All four just bring a smile to my face
and brighten my day.

How could someone want to commit suicide with
four beautiful children, a loving wife, parents
that love and care about me, and a great and extremely
wonderful caring, sweet, giving grandmother
to whom I could never give half of what
she has given me.

Derek D.










I sit here in wonderement
At the stories people tell
Of their sad and lonely voyage
Through their own private hell.

I try to share their feelings
Of the battles they have known,
But someone on the outside
Can never feel it in their bones.

All I truly have to offer
Is one sympathetic ear.
I trust it will be helpful
As they overcome their fear.

I will try to be here for them
Try to help them on their way.
May I always show compassion
‘Til they find their freedom day.







Physical pain, hard
mental anguish, hard
the hardest thing of all - what it does to the core
Silent not by choice
but by force
He is supposed to protect - but he kills - me

Despite the pain
I overcome
Today I am stronger
conscious of the silent pain in others

No words pass
but so much said
silence speak loud
if people listen
not with ears but with hearts


"Child abuse is not confined to any one group or social class; it cuts across all ethnic, religious, social and economic backgrounds." - Health Canada

Everyone has a personal responsibility to protect our children, to uphold their rights -- this will benefit of all members of society.

There is a need to recognize the general complicity of society in the patterns of abusive behaviour that are inherited over generations and through cultural influences.

There is a need to promote the identification and naming of abusive behaviour in the public domain.

There is a fear of labeling. Society must recognize that people are more than their abuse issues. This is important for the abused and the abuser in us because it creates the space for healing.

There is a need for a community driven response to prevent child abuse and to provide support and assistance for survivors of child abuse. Child abuse needs to be recognized as a social problem, not only a private problem. Communities need to take ownership of the issues of child abuse and take responsibility in responding.

The media can play more of a part in making the connection between violence having roots in child abuse.

The public needs to make the connection between abused kids and people in jail, living on the street, dropping out of school, battling repeated illnesses, coping with addictions and acting out violently and aggressively.

We must target strategies that will help all of us develop new patterns of beliefs and behaviours relating to child abuse. Education should inform not only on what is wrong but also "what is healthy."

Needs assessments should look at community resources to help individuals stop child abuse and fill in gaps in services. It is important to have in each community, accessible and coordinated. of resources and services for the treatment of individuals and families. Each community’s response to abuse must be evaluated, and adapted as change occurs.

We need further development of centralized referral sources such as the Advocacy Centre in Guelph and the National Advocacy Centre in the U.S.A.

An important part of prevention is creating public awareness through education, starting with our children.

Additional government funding and educational support are needed to further develop prevention resources.

If you feel frustrated by the plight of abused children, you can make a difference. For example, you could contact your Member of Parliament, lobby for changes to the criminal justice system or write letters to the editors of your local newspapers. Governments should be lobbied to develop policies which address the issues and concerns of child abuse.

Strategic members of the community need to be advocates to bridge gaps by lobbying governments to develop effective policies which address the issues and concerns of child abuse.

There needs to be national and annual conferences on child abuse and neglect.

Would you want to wait 6 months for heart surgery...abused children often wait longer for treatment.

Speak out when you see child abuse happen. Name it, and when you are told to mind your own business, affirm that, "Children are everyone's business."



Discussion - Responding to
Abuse in Our Communities

Each community must take responsibility for abuse, and acknowledge that there are problems. By taking ownership, community driven responses can be developed. Unique, easily accessible resources must be developed, covering the spectrum of services: intervention, treatment, prevention and awareness.

Responsibilities and roles must be identified within each community. The public must be educated to believe that abuse is a social problem, not a private problem. Child abuse must be defined and demystified. Laws must be changed.

The abuser and abused exists in all of us. Our abusive beliefs and patterns are inherited. We need to identify generational abusive patterns. There is also a need to define all abuse, including different definitions of abuse by culture.

As a community responding, we all need to learn new ways to respond, but we cannot help people change patterns until they have empathy.

Survivors must be part of the response within the community. Empathy is developed by being able to recognize body feelings, by role playing the same and different feelings about an incident, and by developing parenting strategies for a safer tomorrow.

It must become mandatory for the system to use resources to change perpetrators’ behaviours, not to just throw them in jail.

Resources are also needed for early intervention. Children do not know what is inappropriate when their home behaviour is dysfunctional. Schools need to educate about child abuse issues, beginning in kindergarten. They need a well-defined sexual harassment policy.

Adolescents make up 30% of perpetrators of sexual abuse. When educating in schools, help numbers must be handed out to all kids. Communities and sub-communities must publish lists of places that survivors can go to access help.

Support and follow up must be in place when children disclose abuse.

As well, we must make it safe to disclose. Survivors need to feel that they will be believed and protected. The police need to become better educated in order to respond more effectively to cases of abuse and sexual abuse.

We also need cooperation amongst agencies in each community to develop a coordinated. approach to helping, including links between the children’s aid and the police.



Issues and Concerns

Poverty creates issues of access to resources, and this is extremely stressful. As well, we need to look at individual versus community responses to abuse. How do we respond to abuse in our community? What does “healthy” look like?

Children must come first. We need to ask questions like “it looks like you’re having a really hard day, is there something I can do to help?” and respond nonjudgementally to the answer. We can offer to help a single parent in our neighbourhood by giving him or her some time out.

The public needs help to know when to report child abuse. They need help to learn where their responsibility lies, as well as education around the signs and symptoms of abuse.



katherr10 — March 24, 2010 — This is a video that me and some group members put together for a project for my community building class at Humber College, Lakeshore campus.

We had to create a massive presentation on a topic of our choice (had to be relative to community building) and we chose Child Abuse. We were to create a powerpoint presentation, have a youtube video, a real life 10 min interview with an agency that is relative to our topic, and a community initiative (we did a fundraiser). Along with that and more, we had the chance to interview a man named Michael C. Irving, a pshycotherapist, and sculpter. He created two monuments called the Child Abuse Survivor Monument to commemorate all those who have been affected and survived child abuse in their lives. It is made up of bronze metal square quilts, each containing a sculpted hand of the victim and a message.

This was the most inspiring piece of art we ever saw, and was completely short of breath when we witnessed it in person. As a group we made a video slideshow, presented in class, of this monument and because it is such a special statue and has a special story to it, I would like to share this video with all who wish to watch it.

Child Abuse is not a topic many people want to hear or talk about but it is real and happens everyday. Some have died facing the abuse they have known all their lives. I hope you watch this and get an idea of just an ounce of what thousands of children across the world endure. Enjoy, and spread the word. -- Natasha Vincent and Humber Team

The name of the song and artist used in the video I made is called "This Moment" by Nic Chagall feat. Jonathan Mendelsohn


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"Follow Site Web Ring"

Don't keep silent. If someone is violent, a child's life my be on the line. Intervention is Prevention.
Julie Atwood





It's too important to
forget. Please help
stop the abuse.
Children are the target.
It starts with
one person.





"It's everyone's





If you suspect
child abuse
Don't give up.
Make someone listen.





Wipe out child abuse.
Uncover a buried smile.





"Big" Little Sister,
"Little" Big Sister.
Meredith, age 18
Beth, age 21




Protect all children.





Stop the violence.
It is my business…
One hundred years
from now it won’t
make any difference
how many things I
had – But the world
may be a better
place because
I was important
in the life of a child.





Stop the Violence
Help Kids Live.





People have to learn
not to abuse kids.





I was abused!
The cycle stopped
with me!





Never give up on your
rights to be treated
with respect. Please be
strong and brave and
tell someone who can
help stop the pain.
Now is the time to heal.
My prayers are with
you all.
Cindy and Isiah

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